{"id":349,"date":"2020-07-12T10:26:34","date_gmt":"2020-07-12T00:26:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/the-six-bardos.org\/?page_id=349"},"modified":"2020-07-12T10:26:35","modified_gmt":"2020-07-12T00:26:35","slug":"four-reminders-practice","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/the-six-bardos.org\/index.php\/four-reminders-practice\/","title":{"rendered":"Four Reminders Practice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The four reminders<\/em>, or four thoughts that turn the mind<\/em>, are an important preparation for death because they turn the mind from constantly looking outward to finally looking within [the four reminders turn the mind in, facing it in the proper direction. The Buddha discovered that enlightenment is an inside job].<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As with mindfulness<\/em>, they provide another way to work with distraction<\/em>. They bring the key instruction \u201cdo not be distracted\u201d to a more comprehensive level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The four reminders show us that it\u2019s not just momentary distraction<\/em> that\u2019s problematic but distraction at the level of an entire life<\/em><\/strong>. If we\u2019re not reminded, we can be mindless and waste our whole life<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trungpa Rinpoche presented them this way:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(1) Contemplate the preciousness of being so free<\/em> and well-favoured<\/em>. This is difficult to gain<\/em>, easy to lose<\/em>, now I must do something meaningful<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(2) The whole world and its inhabitants are impermanent<\/em>. In particular, the life of beings is like a bubble. Death comes without warning<\/em><\/strong>; this body will be a corpse. At that time the dharma<\/em> will be my only help. I must practice it with exertion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(3) When death comes, I will be helpless. Because I create karma<\/em><\/strong>, I must abandon evil deeds<\/em> and always devote myself to virtuous actions<\/em>. Thinking this, every day I will examine myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(4) The homes, friends, wealth, and comforts of samsara are the constant torment of the three sufferings. Just like a feast before the executioner leads you to your death, I must cut desire and attachment<\/em><\/strong>, and attain enlightenment through exertion<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How long should we contemplate these reminders? Until our mind turns. Until we give up hope for samsara, and realize the folly of finding happiness outside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAsk yourself these two questions: (1) Do I remember at every moment that I am dying, and that everyone and everything else is, and so treat all beings at all times with compassion? (2) Has my understanding of death and impermanence become so keen and so urgent that I am devoting every second to the pursuit of enlightenment? If you can answer \u2018yes\u2019 to both of these, then you really understand impermanence.\u201d (Based on Rinpoche, Sogyal. Glimpse After Glimpse<\/em>. Ebury Publishing. Kindle Edition.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of us spend our lives looking out at the world, chasing after thoughts and things. We\u2019re distracted by all kinds of objects and rarely look into the mind which is the ultimate source of these objects<\/em>. If we turn our mind and look in the right direction, however, we will find our way to a good life \u2013 and a good death. Instead of being carried along with the external constructs of mind<\/em>, we finally examine the internal blueprints of mind itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is often said that the preliminaries are more important than the main practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The significance of these four reminders, as a preliminary practice, cannot be overstated. Ch\u00f6kyi Nyima Rinpoche said that if we could truly take them to heart, fifty percent of the path to enlightenment would be complete.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These contemplations develop revulsion to conditioned appearances, point out their utter futility, and cause awareness to prefer itself<\/em> rather than outwardly appearing objects. They turn the mind away from substitute gratifications and direct it toward authentic gratification \u2013 which can only be found within<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The four thoughts remind us of the preciousness of this human life<\/em><\/strong>; that we are going to die<\/em><\/strong>; that karma follows us everywhere<\/em><\/strong>; and that samsara is a waste of time<\/em><\/strong> that only supplies suffering. Memorize them. They will reframe your life<\/em>, focus your mind<\/em>, and advise you in everything you do<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As Samuel Johnson, the author of the first English dictionary, said, \u201cWhen a man knows he is to be hanged in a fortnight, it concentrates his mind wonderfully.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What would you do if you had six months to live? What would you cut out of your life? What would you do if you had one month, one week, one day?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Indian master Atisha said, \u201cIf you do not contemplate death in the morning, the morning is wasted. If you do not contemplate death in the afternoon, the afternoon is wasted. If you do not contemplate death in the evening, the evening is wasted.\u201d The four reminders remove the waste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the best ways to prepare for death is to acknowledge that we really are going to die. We are falling in the dark and have no idea when we will hit the ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Buddhist scholar Anne Klein says, \u201cLife is a party on death row. Recognizing mortality means we are willing to see what is true. Seeing what is true is grounding. It brings us into the present.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that we\u2019re going to die. But we don\u2019t know it in our guts. If we did, we would practice as if our hair was on fire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trungpa Rinpoche said that until we take death to heart, our spiritual practice is dilettantish<\/em> [synonyms: amateurish, inexperienced, inexpert, unskilful].<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Author Sam Harris wrote, \u201cWhile we try not to think about it, nearly the only thing we can be certain of in this life is that we will one day die and leave everything behind; and yet, paradoxically, it seems almost impossible to believe that this is so. Our felt sense of what is real seems not to include our own death. We doubt the one thing that is not open to any doubt at all.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We see others dying all around us but somehow feel entitled to an exemption. In the Hindu epic the Mahabharata<\/em>, the sage Yudisthira is asked, \u201cOf all things in life, what is the most amazing?\u201d Yudisthira answers, \u201cThat a man, seeing others die all around him, never thinks he will die.\u201d If we acknowledge death and use it as an advisor, however, it will prioritize our life, ignite our renunciation, and spur our meditation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Buddha said, \u201cOf all footprints, that of the elephant is the deepest and most supreme. Of all contemplations, that of impermanence is the deepest and most supreme.\u201d He who dies with the most toys still dies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bring these supreme reminders into your life. Realize that life is like a candle flame in the wind. Visualize friends and family and say, \u201cUncle Joe is going to die, my sister Sarah is going to die, my friend Bill is going to die, I am going to die.\u201d Put pictures of dead loved ones on your desk or shrine; put sticky notes with the word \u201cdeath\u201d or \u201cI am going to die\u201d inside drawers or cabinets to remind you; read an obituary every day; go to nursing homes, cemeteries, and funerals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The essence of spiritual practice is remembrance<\/em><\/strong>, whether it\u2019s remembering to come back to the present moment or recalling the truth of impermanence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do whatever it takes to realize that time is running out and you really could die today<\/em>. You are literally one breath away from death. Breathe out, don\u2019t breathe in, and you\u2019re dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the marks of an advanced student is that they finally realize that today could be the day. As Paul Simon sang, \u201cI\u2019ll continue and continue to pretend that my life will never end . . .\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We essentially spend our lives moving deck chairs around the Titanic. No matter how we position ourselves\u2014how comfortable we try to get\u2014it\u2019s all going down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These teachings exhort us not to spend our lives, which most of us do literally and figuratively. Reinvest<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take the precious opportunity that has been given to you, and do not waste your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The four thoughts that turn the mind turn it from reckless spending to wise investing<\/em><\/strong>. Invest in your future lives now<\/em>. [Of the five paths leading to enlightenment, most serious practitioners \u201csave\u201d their lives on the first path, the path of accumulation \u2013 the path of investment. Turn from squandering (this life) to investing (in future lives).]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On a personal note, this has been the greatest gift in my study and practice of the bardos. I\u2019m thick-headed but I finally get it: I am going to die \u2013 and it could be today. My life has been completely restructured because I now believe it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These reminders may seem like a morbid preoccupation with death, but only because of our extreme aversion to dying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For most of us, death is the final defeat. Historian Arnold Toynbee said, \u201cDeath is un-American.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jack LaLanne, the fitness and diet guru, once said, \u201cI can\u2019t afford to die. It would wreck my image.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We live in denial of death, and suffer in direct proportion to this denial when death occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The four reminders remind us of the uncompromising truth of reality and prepare us to face it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lama Zopa Rinpoche writes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The very last thing [the Buddha] left, his very last teaching \u2013 like a will that ordinary people leave that talks of worldly things, the most precious things to the ordinary person \u2013 the most important and beneficial thing that Shakyamuni Buddha could bequeath, the most important thing for us to realize and understand, is the truth and reality of impermanence . . . his entire teaching career ended with this. This one word, impermanence, captures the full range of samsaric suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The four reminders, joined with shamatha<\/em>, instill a strength of mind that benefits both self and other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche taught,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe strength of shamatha<\/em> is that our mind is slow enough and stable enough to bring in the reality, to really see it. Then when someone we know is dying, we aren\u2019t so shaken up. We may be sad, in the sense of feeling compassion, but we have thoroughly incorporated the notion of death to the point that it has profoundly affected our life. That is known as strength of mind.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That stability naturally radiates to stabilize the mind of the dying person, which helps them when everything is being blown away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dying people are sometimes jealous of those still alive. \u201cWhy do I have to die when everyone else keeps on living? It\u2019s so unfair, why me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At that point they need to remember that those left behind are not returning to a party that lasts till infinity. Those left behind are returning to a challenging life that is filled with the three kinds of suffering. [The three kinds of suffering, along with the four reminders, should be contemplated by those left behind: the suffering of suffering, the suffering of change, and all-pervasive suffering. These seven reflections deflate any samsaric aspiration. They can be viewed as subsets of the unpopular but uncompromising first noble truth, the truth of suffering, which says that if you take a close look, there is no happy ending in samsara<\/em><\/strong>.]  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you are dying, remember that it\u2019s just a matter of time before everyone else joins you, just as you are about to join the billions of others who have already left this life for another one. Those left behind are a minority. No one is going to get out of this alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Source: Based on Holecek, Andrew. Preparing to Die<\/em> (pp. 22-23). Shambhala. Kindle Edition.<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"reddit\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>by <\/span>\"feather\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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